How to Build a Relationship With Your Stepchild - FamilyLife
Family counselor Elena Rodriguez notes that tension often arises not from the stepchild, but from the biological mother feeling sidelined. stepmom lends a hand
"Sarah was great because she never tried to be 'Mom,'" says Mark, 45. "When my son was failing algebra, she didn't ground him. Instead, she sat down and offered to quiz him on flashcards. She lent a hand with the problem, but left the parenting decisions to me. It allowed the boys to trust her without feeling like she was usurping their mother." How to Build a Relationship With Your Stepchild
Leaving a positive note in a school lunch, offering to watch a favorite movie together, or simply saying "good morning" can have a compounding, positive effect. Instead, she sat down and offered to quiz him on flashcards
For a stepmother to effectively offer help, communication between all adults is paramount. This includes the often-awkward co-parenting relationship with the ex-spouse.